I realize more and more what influence my approach has on my life. The approach is, in my opinion, more important than the facts. It is more important than the past, education, money, circumstances, failures, successes, it is more important than what other people think, say or do. It is more important than appearance, talent or skill. He has the ability to build or destroy a company, church, home. The most amazing thing is that we can decide every day what approach we will have. We cannot change the past; We cannot change the fact that people will behave in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can change is our approach to it. I am convinced that life depends 10% on what happens to me and 90% on how I approach it. And it’s the same with you. We are responsible for our approach. tho Charles R. Swindoll
Faith acts positively in a negative situation. – Dr. Robert Schuller
If there is one thing that unites us all, it is that sometimes we all suffer. We all triumph. We encounter obstacles and things that throw us off balance and challenge our inner strength. That’s life. And we often understand the lessons we’re going through only in retrospect. Without the difficult times, the ones wouldn’t be great. Everything would seem flat and monotonous, easy and boring.
Without effort, there would be no truly effective change. The beauty of life lies in overcoming the seemingly insurmountable. Our confidence grows and we find within ourselves a strength that we had no idea.
On this occasion, I thought about various situations that I had to go through in my life. I remember that I always focused mainly on the negative aspects of the situation. How bad I felt, how miserable the situation was, and how I thought it would never change. And so on. Vicious circle.
But what if we focused much more on how our efforts change us and our lives for the better?
Could the negative situations be improved by thinking about what benefit they bring us?
When I was unhappy about my scientific research career, all I could focus on was ruining my life. I went to college for 7 years, learned to be a scientist, just to figure out that I basically didn’t enjoy it. I cursed myself for so many days that I made such a big mistake in life and went in the wrong direction.
My negative thoughts were so strong that I almost convinced myself that it is better to live the rest of my life without fulfillment than to face change. I told myself that I would be able to do whatever I wanted when I was retired. I was 25 years old then!
That’s when I realized that I would either drown in my own negativity or try to look at things under a different light. Instead of cursing myself and my ‘mistakes’ (I’d rather call them the experiences I learned from), I looked for lessons and meaning.
What did my dissatisfaction try to tell me?
How did this restlessness encourage me to make a change in life?
If I hadn’t stepped in the wrong direction in my career, I wouldn’t have found the satisfaction that my career brings me today. I started this blog as a hobby during my scientific research career. It was something I could work on in my free time and it brought me so much joy that I spent most of my free time doing it. What began as a distraction from my real life became what gave me that life.
I didn’t even realize that this hobby would become not only a catalyst that would help me leave my unsatisfactory career and start my own business, but also help me find a real passion in life.
And now I surprisingly see my efforts in a new light. Instead of cursing the time of discomfort, I see it as a message calling for change. Whether I listen to him or not is up to me. tho Angela
